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A female teacher who is married to a Nigerian surgeon has been arrested in the US for having sex with her 17-year-old student.

Nigerian doctor's wife arrested for having sex with student  (Daily Mail)
The police in South Carolina, United State of America have arrested a 27-year-old high school mathematics teacher, Jennifer Danielle Olajire-Aro who is married to a Nigerian surgeon, for having sex with her 17-year-old student.

Daily Mail reports that the student came forward to say Olajire-Aro had sex with him several times.

According to an affidavit signed by the police, Olajire-Aro who lives and works in South Carolina engaged in 'an intimate and sexual relationship with her 17-year-old male student' on three occasions between November and December 2017, at her residence and other locations in Charleston.

How she was arrested:

The student had reported the sexual encounters he had with Olajire-Ato to another teacher and the teacher reported what the student said to school administration, the affidavit said.

The matter was then reported to authorities who arrested Olajire-Aro and during interrogation, she admitted to having a sexual relationship with the student on three occasions and is now facing one count of sexual battery in Charleston, S.C.

At her bond hearing, the victim’s mother who spoke on the incident called the suspect a 'hellacious person who preyed on her young child who was entrusted to her care,'  she said.

“He is 17, 17. He is not an adult. Emotionally, he is not ready for this. I’m not ready for the texts, the phone calls, the comments,” the mother lamented.

Olajire-Aro who is also a tennis coach, has been placed on paid administrative leave, according to the school district.

Her attorney confirmed that she is married with a 10-month-old baby girl and that her husband is a surgeon at the Medical University of South Carolina.
"She is married. Her husband is a student at the Medical University of South Carolina in the residency program. She has a 10-month-old baby, a girl," the attorney said.

The consequences:
She’s being held on $100,000 bail and has been ordered not to have contact with the victim, his family or students at the school and she is also not allowed to leave the state without permission from the 9th Circuit Solicitor's Office.

Olajire-Aro taught pre-calculus and algebra at Burke, has a master's degree from the University of Texas in education, and has no prior record, the attorney continued, adding that she had no prior disciplinary actions against her at the school until the current accusations surfaced, and has received awards for her teaching.

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 8 months now.
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We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That’s it. It was fun at first but as time went on I started to develop feelings for him. Now I’m in love with him. I’m crazy about this man. I recently expressed my feelings for him and he was shocked.

Also Read:Why Do Guys Never Truly Love Me?.

We don’t have sex as often and we don’t hang out as often because of our very busy schedules. I forgot to mention there’s an age gap. I’m 21 he’s 29. I’m frustrated because I want us to develop into something more..but there’s so many obstacles in the way. The age difference isn’t that big of a deal to me but it might be to him.

The base of our relationship also started off as sex and I feel like making that change is going to be difficult. I don’t know!! My thoughts are all scrambled!! Pleaseeee help me.”

Also Read: The Hard Truth about being The Wife of a Soldier .

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A couple where the man who takes much too long to come can be seen as fortunate. We all know that many men ejaculate too quickly!

What makes a woman happy in bed? Long or short-lived intercourse?

But while a lot of women are dismayed by premature ejaculation (PE), it’s a mistake to think of the opposite condition – delayed ejaculation (DE) – as some kind of great lovemaking technique.

In fact, the truth is that long lasting intercourse caused by DE can be just as distressing for a woman as very short lived intercourse caused by PE. And being with a man who can’t climax during intercourse can make a woman feel physically sore, and psychologically unattractive.

So while a woman might think that delayed ejaculation symptoms are something she’d like to have in her man’s lovemaking repertoire, the truth is that the reality can be distressing. For example, a woman may even begin to think her man’s problems might be her fault.

So if you’re a woman whose man is having problems ejaculating, and you’re not experiencing the delights of him coming inside your mouth or vagina, please remember it’s not your fault.

You see, his problem is caused by him not being turned on, and most likely this has nothing to do with you.

What Is Delayed Ejaculation?

Well, to start with, there is no clear definition – but I think we can say with confidence that if a man’s taking more than 15 minutes to finish during lovemaking he’s probably suffering from delayed ejaculation.

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And if he’s taking more than 30 minutes, then he’s definitely got a problem. And so have you, of course.

Now this is no fun, no matter how desirable it might sound. There’s almost always pressure on the relationship, which can even make a couple reluctant to have sex at all.

Because if he finishes with a sore penis, and you end up with a sore vagina, and you both can get bored, what’s the point?

Well, of course the point is that the survival of your relationship might depend on you both having a good sexual relationship with each other.

1 The physical causes

There are a lot of medications on the market which interfere with a man’s capacity to reach orgasm and ejaculate normally. These include SSRI antidepressants like Prozac and Paxil, and other medications used to treat anxiety like Xanax and Valium.

Another category of medication which can make a man last forever without being able to “come” (or “cum”) is antipsychotic medication.

Other drugs which have similar effects include blood pressure medications and anti-convulsive medications, as well as Statins and many other drugs. These can all stop a man ejaculating, or ensure that he lasts a long time before climax (but not in a good way!)

One option is to switch to medications reputed to have fewer side-effects like Wellbutrin. But the truth is that some of these medications are vital for your well-being, and it’s not worth the risk of stopping or changing them.

In this case, perhaps a couple could take a different attitude? For example, how about changing the approach….  as a woman, if you can’t make your husband climax any more, maybe there’s no point trying, and you should simply go for the feeling of connection and intimacy which comes from penile penetration, but without the expectation of orgasm?

Or, if you are a man, how about simply using hand stimulation to achieve climax and enjoying penetration for it’s own sake?

2 Anxiety and Depression – And Other Emotional Stress –The Psychological Causes

Sometimes the problem is in the relationship!

Although it seems strange, some emotional conditions often seem to cause male anorgasmia (absence of orgasm).

Obviously when a man is sexually aroused and simply cannot ejaculate, there might be nothing you can do about this.

In such cases, counselling or some other kind of psychological therapy may be needed. This isn’t just about the quality of your sex life, it’s about the quality of your relationship and enjoying a satisfying sex life.

3 Other Medical Conditions

If your man is sexually aroused but still doesn’t reach orgasm, it’s worth considering whether or not there might be some other medical issue involved in the problem.

There are some conditions like urinary tract infections and antibiotics which might stop ejaculation. And sometimes ejaculatory delay is the symptom of a condition like multiple sclerosis, diabetes or maybe even hypothyroidism.

This isn’t a reason to panic – it’s just a reason to check out whether there’s something else going on that’s causing the problem.

Performance Anxiety

As far as psychological issues are concerned, sometimes overcoming ejaculation problems is all about overcoming performance anxiety or the fear of not being good enough in bed.

Men with penile abnormalities like hypospadias, or testicular problems, or even – regrettably – men with a small penis, may fear exposing themselves in a sexual situation, and the anxiety this produces can cause emotional hangups which get in the way of a man reaching the finishing line while all around him are charging over it.

There are other problems too:  anger or resentment towards a sexual partner, or perhaps even latent homosexuality. But don’t assume this is the cause of your delayed ejaculation (DE) or your man’s DE before examining the simpler and more obvious possibilities.

For example, perhaps your relationship’s in trouble? If so, you might need to see a relationship therapist or engage in some serious straight talking about how you feel.

4 Alcohol
As Shakespeare said, it increases the desire but reduces the ability – although he didn’t put it quite so politely! One cause of a man who has lost his mojo is drinking too much – it does cause problems in this area.

5 Masturbation Technique

A lot of guys who can’t come can trace their trouble with ejaculation right back to problems with adolescent masturbation.

In other words, they probably learned to masturbate with a hard or harsh technique which involved a lot of pressure and speed on the penis, either with their hand or by thrusting against the mattress in bed.

Even into adulthood some men who find it challenging to ejaculate during sex with a woman still use this method of masturbation. So if you or your man has difficulty coming during intercourse, it may be worth thinking about how he brings himself off when he’s on his own.

The heavy duty masturbation style a lot of men employ can cause serious sexual dysfunction, and that level of pressure can’t be replicated by either a mouth or vagina, or even a woman’s hand.

To overcome delayed ejaculation, a man must train his penis and body to respond to less pressure and feel more sensitivity

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For many men seeking premature ejaculation (PE) treatment, the internet is the first point of call. Our team understands that seeking help face to face with a GP can be a daunting prospect, and we’ve worked hard to provide a discreet, easy-to-use service that will suit your needs. Below are our answers to some common questions about PE.

What is premature ejaculation?
There's no precise definition of PE, but it is generally defined as a man achieving orgasm too quickly (typically in less than two minutes) during penetrative sex, something which can lead to embarrassment and put stress upon a relationship.

The majority of men suffer from a form of premature ejaculation at some point in their lives and, in many cases, it is not a lasting condition. It is also very easy to seek help and advice for this condition, either from your GP or from a service such as our online clinic.

What types of premature ejaculation are there?

Although PE is hard to define, it is commonly accepted that there are two types: primary, which starts since first becoming sexually active, and secondary, where the condition often occurs later in life and can be caused by both psychological and physical factors. The condition can occur with all partners and situations or only with a specific partner or in a certain situation.

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What causes premature ejaculation?

PE is considered to be multifactorial and can be due to a psychological issue, a physical cause or both - often there is no clear cause. It can be caused by anxiety, depression, problems with your sexual partner and stress. It is more likely to happen if you are young and in the early stages of a relationship or if it has been a long time since you last ejaculated. Anxiety about sex during early sexual encounters can contribute towards premature ejaculation, however with increasing sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm.

Common physical causes of premature ejaculation include prostate disease, an underactive thyroid, recreational drugs and alcohol. It can also be associated with erectile dysfunction.

What are the treatment options for premature ejaculation?

Whatever the causes, there are many different ways of treating PE. The most common treatments are:

Prescription tablets, such as Priligy. Priligy is a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) that is specifically used for treating PE. It has shown to be very effective in delaying ejaculation.

Local anaesthetic creams, such as EMLA, that work by desensitising the penis when applied. The cream should be applied at least 15 minutes before intercourse and should be washed off afterwards. These are not licensed treatments for PE, but have been prescribed for many men with success.

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Condoms that contain a local anaesthetic.

Behavioural techniques that help the man to ‘unlearn’ the habit of premature ejaculation. You may need professional advice on how to benefit from these techniques. These are most likely to produced permanent results.

Counselling, to alleviate the emotional or psychological causes of your PE.

Our online PE clinic offers both Priligy and EMLA cream, alongside a free online assessment by an NHS accredited doctor, meaning you can seek medical help for your condition from the comfort of your own home. 

What should I do about premature ejaculation?

If you find that your premature ejaculation is making you feel unhappy, unfulfilled or embarrassed, then you should try not to worry. You should also think about talking to your GP or taking our short online assessment. Our doctors will then be able to reassure you and get you the right treatment.

 Premature ejaculation can be caused by physical or psychological factors, including prostate conditions, anxiety, depression and problems with your sexual partner.

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Hello Supermoms!!! It's been a while, hope we are all doing great. Be expectant God hasn't forgotten you!!!

Vaginal hygiene: do’s and don’ts

Proper vaginal hygiene can make a world of difference to our reproductive health. It can reduce the risk of acquiring infections, it can speed up recovery and prevent uncomfortable symptoms such as irritation and discharge. Take a look at some of the most important do’s and don’ts of vaginal hygiene.
Things You Need To Do In Other To Have Good Vaginal Hygiene Are Listed Bellow;

1. Wash your intimate area once a day.
This means you simply should be using lukewarm water or a gentle, natural intimate wash once a day.

2. Use intimate wipes if a shower is not around.
Intimate wipes offer convenience. Especially when on period, during warmer months or when traveling.

3. Wipe yourself from front to back.
It is very easy to transfer bacteria from anus to the vagina when wiping from back to front, so make sure never to break this important rule. Use unscented and uncolored toilet paper in order to avoid irritation.

4. Always use a soothing product after removing pubic hair.
Whether you choose to shave, wax, use a depilatory cream or something else, always make sure to hydrate your skin prior to the procedure, and apply a natural soothing product to the area in order to prevent skin irritation. If you are reading this and are already experiencing itch, irritation or a burning sensation of the intimate skin area, you can get direct relief with Multi-Gyn IntiSkin.

5. Pat instead of rubbing.
After showering, use a soft clean towel and pat your intimate area gently to dry it completely.

Things You Need To Avoid In Other To Have Good Vaginal Hygiene Are Listed Bellow;

1. Avoid using soap, soap is highly alkaline and very aggressive for gentle, sensitive skin of the intimate area. Always choose a natural intimate wash that doesn’t contain soap, fragrances or dyes.

2. Avoid Wear synthetic, tight underwear.
Synthetic fabrics don’t allow the skin to breath, which leads to increased temperature and humidity in the intimate region. Tight garments create friction, which can cause micro tears in the skin. Combine this with increased heat and moisture and you get a perfect recipe for a possible vaginal infection. Choose natural materials and avoid tight clothing for prolonged periods of time.

3. Avoid fragrance or deodorant to make your intimate parts smell better.
Every vagina has a unique smell, and unless there is a problem, it shouldn’t smell bad. A strong odor can be a sign of infection.

4. Distance your self from spend a whole day wearing the same panty liner.
Panty liners are not intended to be used for prolonged periods of time. Similar to synthetic underwear, panty liners prevent the skin from breathing and can irritate your skin and increase the risk of infection. The same goes for sanitary pads and tampons, especially due to the menstrual blood that stays in close contact with the skin. Always change your panty liners, pads and tampons every 3 to 4 hours, right before going to bed and as soon as you get up.

5. Don't use any products containing irritants or allergens.
This goes for lotions, sprays, bubble baths, etc. Ingredients that should make you avoid the products containing them, include detergents, fragrances, dyes, strong chemicals and preservative.

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Do you feel pregnant and have pregnancy symptoms and then after a while your periods comes?

There are possible reasons why this happens.

1st reason: Pregnancy symptoms happens because of the high levels of hormones in pregnant women but sometimes due to hormonal fluctuations and imbalance, some women will have high levels of hormones in their bodies even when they are not pregnant. This makes them feel pregnant.
This hormonal imbalance also makes it difficult to get pregnant.

2nd possible reason: If your periods are irregular, there is also the possibility that you get pregnant and then lose the pregnancy. When you lose a pregnancy so early, it is called a chemical pregnancy. Because the pregnancy was only a few days/weeks, you might not know you were pregnant. You just think that your period was late. Many chemical pregnancies are also caused by hormonal imbalance. For instance, low progesterone to keep the baby healthy.

Whether it is the first or second reason, the root cause is hormonal imbalance and you can resolve hormonal imbalance by eating a healthy fertility diet, regular exercise, good sleep and so on.

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Having low sperm count can make it more difficult to conceive naturally, problems with sperm, including a low sperm count and problems with sperm quality are quite common. They’re a factor in around one in three couples who are struggling to get pregnant. Infertility is a widespread problem. For about one in five infertile couples the problem lies solely in the male partner.

REASONS why YOU have low sperm Count:
1. Varicocele, infection, antibodies that attack sperm, tumors, hormone imbalances, prior surgeries, industrial chemicals, heavy metal exposure, radiation or X-rays, overheating the testicles, alcohol, smoking.

2. Azoospermia is the Medical condition of a man whose Semen contains no sperm. It has a strong association with infertility. In humans, azoospermia affects about 1% of the male population and may be seen in up to 20% of male infertility situations.

Causes of Azoospermia. This will include;
Genetic conditions , infections, varicocele, smoking, drinking alcohol, and using illegal drugs. Others will include,
Soda drinks (Coke, Fanta, Pepsi). A few studies have also linked soda—both diet and regular to lower fertility.

Trans fats

High glycemic-index foods.

Low fat dairy.

Excess alcohol.

Unpasteurized soft cheeses.


Raw animal products.
While processed meat products cause low quality sperm

Some Possibly Remedies To Low Sperm Count (Azoospermia) Are Listed Bellow;

1. By continuously eating carrot and other vegetables can actually boost fertility and decrease the risk of infertility in women.

2. Ask your men to stop putting laptops on their laps..

3. Wearing of tight pant to sleep isn't also in the interest of the testicles.

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Medical conditions, some drugs, and your own anatomy can make sex hurt. The good news: all of these symptoms can be treated.

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Why sex hurts, and what to do about it

You're in the mood and your partner is ready, so you make a beeline to the bed with plans to rock the sheets. But then you feel it—a dull ache, an itchy rash, or a searing out-of-no where jab. When you've always enjoyed sex and suddenly it hurts, it can be confusing and worrisome. "Pain during sex is one of the most common things patients ask about, but most of the time, it's caused by something temporary that can be treated," says Alyssa Dweck, MD, an OB/GYN in Westchester, New York and coauthor of V Is for Vagina ($12; In fact, the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists says that 75% of women experience painful sex at some point in their lives. Get a handle on what's keeping you sidelined from the sack by reading this checklist of symptoms, then the solution that will get you back in the saddle again.

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The outside of your vagina is crazy-irritated

Possible cause: Personal care products. This isn't the kind of burning love anyone hopes to experience. But if irritation and redness on your outer labia or vulva are keeping you from enjoying the action, blame a bad reaction on a personal care product that made contact with the area—such as soap, body wash, massage oil, or even your toilet paper. "Dyes, perfumes, and other additives in these products can trigger vaginitis, or inflammation of the skin around the vagina," says Dr. Dweck. 

Get back in the sack: Speed healing by leaving the area alone for a day or two until the irritation subsides. (Dabbing on a lotion or cream can just make the inflammation worse.) Then, take inventory of the products you use below the belt and swap out items with chemical additives for all-natural ones, Dr. Dweck says.

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It itches or stings down there, and there's discharge

Possible cause: An infection. Discharge can be a tip-off that an infection is causing the pain. The tricky part: figuring out which infection is putting the brakes on your sex life. If the discharge is white, thick, and super itchy, it's probably a yeast infection, an overgrowth of the yeast that normally colonize the vagina, says Dr. Dweck. Another possibility: bacterial vaginosis, which typically has a grayish, watery discharge and a fishy odor. Then there are STDs such as gonorrhea or chlamydia, which often have zero signs but can cause pelvic pain and a greenish-yellow discharge. 

Get back in the sack: Check in with your doctor, advises Dr. Dweck. Though an over-the-counter antifungal cream can cure a yeast infection, it's best to rule out something more serious right away. Your doc will prescribe an antibiotic for whatever ails you. 

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Your vagina is clamped shut

Possible cause: Vaginismus. If penetration has gone from painful to downright impossible because your vagina is shut tight, it may signal a little-known condition called vaginismus, says Raquel Dardik, MD, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at NYU Langone Medical Center. Characterized by painful, involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles, the cause is a mystery, though it may be the result of past trauma, like sexual abuse. "It's like your vagina has put up a 'do not enter' sign," adds Dweck. 

Get back in the sack: Ask your doctor specifically about vaginismus—otherwise, she might just blow it off as anxiety or stress. That would be a shame, because vaginismus is real, and it's definitely treatable. "We teach women exercises that help them relax the pelvic floor muscles, which can help a great deal," says Dr. Dardik.

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Your vagina feels like the Sahara

Possible causes: Stress, drugs, or hormones. Vaginal dryness is one of the most common reasons women say they aren't feeling it during sex. Many things can cause it, such as stress, anxiety, or taking meds like antihistamines, which dry out mucus membranes, says Dr. Dweck. "It can also be the result of the normal drop in estrogen levels after childbirth, during breastfeeding, or as you approach perimenopause and menopause," she says.

Get back in the sack: Get things gliding again by using a silicone-based motion lotion to supplement your natural lubrication until stress lifts or estrogen production cranks back up. If it's perimenopause- or menopause-related, the estrogen dip may be permanent. But dryness doesn't have to be, so ask your doctor about options, like using a prescription vaginal estrogen cream. 

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Mid-thrust, you feel pain to the side

Possible cause: Ovarian cysts. A stabbing pain that can be pretty severe before subsiding could be a sign of an ovarian cyst, which your partner accidentally hit during thrusting. "It's not uncommon to have a fluid-filled cyst on the ovary, and if it's rubbed or touched even with the vagina as a barrier, it can hurt quite a bit," says Dr. Dardik. 

Get back in the sack: If you feel this jab mid-deed, you definitely want to let your doctor know—especially if you're post-menopausal, when cysts can indicate something serious. But for younger women, an ovarian cyst is unlikely to be anything to worry about. "The vast majority of cysts are benign and cyclical, and they tend to disappear on their own," says Dr. Dardik.

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During sex, your partner bumps something inside you

Possible cause: Fibroids. An ovarian cyst isn't the only thing your partner might accidentally bump up against. A sharp pain felt higher in the vagina could be a sign of a uterine fibroid—a rubbery, stalk-like benign growth in the uterus. A 2014 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women with fibroids were three times more likely to experience  than fibroid-free women. "The fibroid is probably jutting against the vagina, and then your partner's penis thrusts against it," says Dr. Dweck. Other signs of fibroids include mid-cycle bleeding, heavier periods, and feeling fullness in your lower abdomen. 

Get back in the sack: Sometimes fibroids shrink or disappear on their own, and if they aren't causing complications, doctors tend to leave them alone. But if you are diagnosed with fibroids and the condition is making a dent in your sex life, talk to your doctor about minimally invasive surgical removal. 

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Sex in any position makes you wince

Possible cause: Endometriosis. From a dull ache to serious agony, general pain anywhere in the vagina might be the only clue that you have endometriosis. This condition occurs when endometrial tissue migrates outside the uterus and adheres to nearby body parts, such as your ovaries and fallopian tubes. "The tissue acts like sticky glue on different organs, and that can fix them in place," says Dr. Dardik. "That lack of flexibility can make things hurt during sex." 

Get back in the sack: If your doctor diagnoses you with endometriosis, you have options: medication can keep tissue growth under control, limiting pain. And surgical removal of the tissue growths also helps, says Dr. Dardik.

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Deep penetration sometimes hurts like crazy

Possible cause: A tipped uterus. If you experience pain only when your partner thrusts deep, you might have a tipped uterus, says Dr. Dweck. "Usually the uterus is aligned straight with the rest of your body, but some women are born with one that is tipped backward toward the pelvis, and that increases the odds that it gets jostled during sex," she says. It's a weird body quirk that won't affect your health or pregnancy odds. 

Get back in the sack: To prevent any jabs, have your guy not thrust too deeply. Or stick to woman on top, where you control the depth of penetration.

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Your perineum flares up in pain

Possible cause: Childbirth. The perineum is the area between your vulva and your anus. Sometimes, doctors slice this sensitive, nerve-rich tissue during childbirth to ease the baby out and prevent tearing, a procedure called an episiotomy. Most women who undergo an episiotomy heal up just fine, but some continue to experience pain, even after their OB/GYN has given the all-clear to have sex again, says Dr. Dweck. 

Get back in the sack: Check in with your doctor, who may advise that you have the episiotomy surgically repaired.

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Your entire vaginal area feels rubbed raw

Possible cause: You're going at it too often. You know how you can get an overuse injury by running too much or overdoing it at CrossFit? Consider all-over chafing outside and inside the vagina a sign that you've scored an overuse injury in the sack. This can be the result of too much of a good thing. "Having a lot of vigorous sex in a short period of time can leave you feeling raw and tender," says Dr. Dweck. 

Get back in the sack: Ease the rawness by keeping things dry down below and wearing loose clothes. In a day or so, you'll be ready to get back in the saddle again

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Get buff for the bedroom

There are two secrets to great sex that nobody talks about: strength and flexibility. Sculpting and stretching key muscles can mean the difference between finishing strong and kinking up (or conking out!) mid-session.

Integrate these targeted exercises into your usual workout routine to feel much more pleasure tonight—and tone up while you’re at it.

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For super flexibility
Try: Frog stretch

Whether you’re dying to test out a new move, or just want to be able to wrap your legs around him, this stretch from Leslie Howard, a yoga instructor in Oakland, California, will help. It opens up the inner thighs and pelvic floor, limbering you up for any position.

• Lie facedown on the floor with two rolled-up towels supporting your pelvis and thighs and your arms reaching out in front of you. Bend arms and legs at 90-degree angles, into a position that resembles a frog. Hold for 3 minutes, then release.

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For lower body power
Try: Ball-wall sits
Certain positions, like you straddling him, can exhaust your glutes, quads, and hamstrings. To go the distance, Los Angeles–based personal trainer Nancy Krank prescribes this "wall sit."

• Place a stability ball against a wall and lean back on it so the top of the ball hits the small of your back, but still touches your lower back and tailbone.

• Place hands on knees, shift weight onto heels, and, with back touching ball, begin to squat down until thighs are parallel to floor (keep knees behind toes). Hold for 15 seconds, stand back up, rest for 30 seconds; repeat 5 times.

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For stay-on-top-all night strength
Try: Spider-man push-ups

"This move puts more force on your arms than a regular push-up," says Amanda Russell, fitness instructor at Equinox in New York City. "By doing it, you’ll be better able to hold yourself up in different positions."

• Assume a push-up position, with your arms straight (drop your knees if this is too challenging). As you bend your arms to lower your body, bend your left knee and bring it toward your left tricep.

• Bring the left leg back to starting position as you push up, then repeat on the right side. Do 2 sets of 10–15.

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For pain-free nooky
Try: Airplane leg lifts

Do your hips and legs ache the morning after? Working your abductor muscles, located in your outer hips and upper glutes, will minimize soreness and reduce hip muscle strains, Russell explains. Here’s how:

• Begin on hands and knees, in tabletop position. Extend your left leg straight behind you, foot relaxed. Keeping the leg parallel to the ground, slowly swing it out to the left until it forms as close as possible to a 90-degree angle with your body; flex your foot.

• Hold for 10 seconds and release, bending knee and returning to tabletop; repeat on right side. Do twice on each side

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Symptoms of each STI can vary, from local symptoms affecting the genitals, to symptoms that affect various other parts of the body. The following is not a full list of all possible symptoms. However, these are the common symptoms to look out for:

A vaginal discharge.

Abnormal vaginal bleeding.

A discharge from the penis.

A sore, ulcer, rash, or lump that appears on the penis or around the vagina, vulva or back passage (anus).

Pain when you have sex.

Pain when you pass urine (although the common reason for this is a urine infection and not an STI).

Swelling of the glands in your groin.

But remember, in many cases of STI, no symptoms may develop. However, you can still pass on the infection to others even if you have no symptoms. Therefore, if you think that you may have an STI, it is best to get it checked out.

Sexually Transmitted Infections


This leaflet gives some brief information about sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and what you are advised to do if you suspect that you have an STI. An STI is sometimes referred to as a sexually transmitted disease (STD) or venereal disease (VD). This leaflet also gives some information about genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinics, sometimes called sexual health clinics. For example, how you can find a GUM clinic and what you can expect when you go to one.

Conditions that are not sexually transmitted infections

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Enough about oysters, already!

If you want to put some sizzle back into your sex life, food can help you set the mood. There’s nothing better than a romantic, home-cooked dinner, featuring some R-rated foods to help turn up the heat. “There’s a growing body of evidence that some of the vitamins and components in foods can enhance sexual function and sexual experience,” says Jennifer R. Berman, MD, the director of the Berman Women’s Wellness Center, in Beverly Hills, Calif.

Here are some of the food ingredients (and my own favorite recipes) that have been major players in aphrodisiac history and lore, and also have modern-day science to back up their claims.

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The Aztecs referred to avocados as, ahem, testicles, because of their physical shape. But the scientific reason why avocados make sense as an aphrodisiac is that they are rich in unsaturated fats and low in saturated fat, making them good for your heart and your arteries. Anything that keeps the heart beating strong helps keep blood flowing to all the right places; in fact, men with underlying heart disease are twice as likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED).

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Topping my list of feisty foods, almonds have long been purported to increase passion, act as a sexual stimulant, and aid with fertility. Like asparagus (another one of my favorite sexy foods), almonds are nutrient-dense and rich in several trace minerals that are important for sexual health and reproduction, such as zinc, selenium, and vitamin E.  “Zinc helps enhance libido and sexual desire,” says Dr. Berman. “We don’t really understand the mechanisms behind it, but we know it works.” 

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The color red is known to help stoke the fire: A 2008 study found that men find women sexier if they're wearing red , as opposed to cool colors such as blue or green. Strawberries are also an excellent source of folic acid, a B vitamin that helps ward off birth defects in women and, according to a University of California, Berkley study, may be tied to high sperm counts in men. This Valentine’s Day, try making dark-chocolate-dipped strawberries. And while we’re on the subject, there’s a reason we give chocolate on Valentine’s Day: It’s full of libido-boosting methylxanthines.

Also See 8 Things You Never Knew About Nosebleeds.

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Despite their slippery and slimy texture, oysters may be the most well-known aphrodisiac. They’re also one of the best sources of libido-boosting zinc. But other types of seafood can also act as aphrodisiacs. Oily fish—like wild salmon and herring—contain , which are essential for a healthy heart.

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Arugula has been heralded as an arousal aid since the first century. Today, research reveals that the trace minerals and antioxidants packed into dark, leafy greens are essential for our sexual health because they help block absorption of some of the environmental contaminants thought to negatively impact our libido.

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These funny-shaped fruits have a long history of being a fertility booster, and they make an excellent aphrodisiac because they are packed with both soluble and insoluble fiber, which is important for heart health. Plus, high fiber foods help fill you up, not out, so it’s easier to achieve that sexy bottom line—or belly.

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Any member of this tropical fruit family is super-rich in antioxidants, vitamin C, and folic acid—all of which are essential for men’s reproductive health. Enjoy a romantic salad that incorporates citrus, like pink grapefruit or mandarin oranges, or use a dressing made with lemon and lime.

Also See Top 10 Myths About Safe Sex and Sexual Health.

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Web of confusion

You know the best place to get information about your sexual health is from your doctor, but for whatever reason—convenience, privacy, or anxiety and urgency—you may one day find yourself searching the Internet for answers to intimate and important questions.

It's great to learn more about your body and your choices, but explore those search results with caution: A recent Stanford University study on adolescent reproductive health found that health websites are often riddled with errors, omissions, and outdated advice, and that it's not always easy to find the truth about common myths believed by many teenagers (and probably many adults as well!).

We spoke with Dr. Sophia Yen, MD, lead researcher of the study and adolescent medicine specialist at Lucile Packard Children's Hospital in Palo Alto, Calif., to get the facts behind these top sexual health misconceptions.

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MYTH: You can catch an STD from a toilet seat

Sexually transmitted diseases or infections can't live outside the body for a long period of time—especially not on a cold, hard surface like a toilet seat. Plus, they aren't present in urine, anyway (it's usually sterile), so the chances of you catching one from whoever used the bathroom before you are slim to none, says Dr. Yen.

What you do need to worry about, however, is what may seem like benign skin-to-skin or mouth-to-mouth contact. Kissing, for example, can spread herpes (and deeper kissing can even spread oral gonorrhea and chlamydia, Dr. Yen warns), while skin rubbing together can pass infections such as genital warts, herpes, scabies, and pubic lice.

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MYTH: You can't get pregnant the first time you have sex

It may seem like the odds are in your favor, but there's no reason to risk it: You are just as likely to get pregnant the first time you have sex as any other. "In fact, some statistics say that 20% of people get pregnant within a month of starting sex," says Dr. Yen.

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MYTH: You can't get pregnant during your period

It is unlikely, but still possible—especially if you're not using a condom or birth control. Some women have long periods that overlap with the beginning of ovulation, which means they can be fertile even though they're menstruating.

Say you have a short cycle (21 days, for example) and your period lasts a week. If you have sex close to the end of your period, you could become pregnant since sperm can live for up to 72 hours in your reproductive tract.

There's also the infamous late-in-life pregnancy that can occur during perimenopause, when periods are erratic. Experts say it's not safe to ditch birth control until you haven't had a period for a year.

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MYTH: Women need a Pap smear when they turn 18

In 2003, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists changed its recommendation for Pap tests, also known as Pap smears; previously, the test was recommended immediately after a woman first has sexual intercourse or at age 18, whichever came first.

Now, Pap tests aren't recommended until women have been sexually active for about three years, or until they turn 21.

An early Pap test may seem harmless, but the stress of needing a Pap—often thought of as an uncomfortable and invasive procedure—may cause young women to avoid their gynecologist or refrain from asking about birth control. Young women should be able to approach their doctors and discuss these issues without the scrutiny of unnecessary tests, says Dr. Yen.

Why the reason for the change? Most cases of human papillomavirus (HPV) clear up on their own within three years; it's only the cases that stick around longer—and will be picked up by a later Pap test—that are real causes for concern because they can lead to cervical cancer.

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The morning after" pill causes an abortion

Plan B, also known as the "morning after" pill, is not the same as RU-486, a pill that causes an abortion. In fact, if you take Plan B when you're already pregnant—that is, if a fertilized egg has attached to the wall of your uterus—it won't make a bit of difference.

In previous research, more than 30% of sexually active adolescents said that they believed emergency contraceptives induce abortion. And in Dr. Yen's study, 10 of the 34 websites studied failed to mention the difference between the two drugs.

"No one likes the word 'abortion'," says Dr. Yen, "so I think a lot of websites aren't going to state that Plan B is not, in fact, an abortive agent."

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MYTH: The "morning after" pill is not available to minors without a prescription

As of April 2009, Plan B is available to women ages 17 and up, nationwide, over the counter without a prescription. (You just need to ask the pharmacist.) It has been available over the counter for those 18 and up since 2006, while individual states could make their own rulings about availability to minors.

Nine states—Alaska, California, Hawaii, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Mexico, Washington, and Vermont—have sold and will continue to sell Plan B directly to women of any age.

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MYTH: Birth control pills make you gain weight

Although clinical trial after clinical trial has been unable to prove a correlation between oral contraceptives and weight gain, this is still a common belief among women of all ages.

Specifically, a review article published in 2006 analyzed 44 previous trials and found that while some participants did gain weight during their studies, there was no evidence that their birth control was to blame.

"We've heard from several of our patients that they're concerned about gaining weight on birth control," says Dr. Yen. "And no woman wants to gain weight. I'd rather prevent pregnancy than propagate a myth that's not supported by science."

One type of contraceptive that may cause weight gain is injectable depot medroxyprogesterone acetate (DMPA), commonly known as the birth control shot. In a study published in March 2009, University of Texas researchers linked the shot to an average 11-pound weight gain over three years.

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MYTH: IUD birth control is not safe for use in adolescents

Intrauterine devices (IUDs) are small objects inserted through the cervix and placed in the uterus to prevent pregnancy for up to 12 years. Because you don't need to take a pill every day when using an IUD, it can be a convenient and long-term way to prevent pregnancy.

Outdated information suggested that IUDs may increase the risk of pelvic inflammatory disease in women under 18.

But as of 2007, ACOG has said that IUDs are a safe and highly effective birth-control method in most adults as well as adolescents—a population at particular risk for unintended pregnancy.

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MYTH: If you get the HPV shot you're safe from cervical cancer

Gardasil and Cervarix are cervical cancer vaccines that block the two types of human papillomavirus (HPV) that most frequently cause cervical cancer. Gardasil also protects against two types that cause the majority of genital warts. But about 30% of cervical cancers will not be prevented by these vaccines, so it's important for all women, whether they've gotten the shot or not, to continue having regular Pap tests.

Gardasil was approved for boys and men in 2009 to reduce the risk of developing genital warts. This may also help prevent the spread of cancer-causing HPV to their female partners.

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MYTH: Douching is a healthy way to clean the vagina

The vagina is self-cleansing, and douching actually causes more harm than good, according to The National Women’s Health Information Center. The natural bacteria found in the vagina help keep it clean and healthy, and douching can disturb that balance and spread vaginal infections into the fallopian tubes, uterus and ovaries. Additionally, douching does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy. In fact, douching makes it easier for a woman to get pregnant because it pushes semen farther up into the vagina and cervix.

Regular washing with warm water and mild, unscented soaps will help keep the outside of the vagina clean. Try to avoid scented tampons, pads, powders, and sprays, which can increase the chance of vaginal infections.

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Trusted resources

Although many of the websites that Dr. Yen's team fact-checked did have incorrect, missing, or outdated information, she does point out a few winners, aimed at adolescents, that portrayed accurate, easy-to-understand information. For more information about sexual health myths and facts—for yourself or for a curious teenage

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